MIR 2012: Recap

My first Mr. International Rubber weekend was quite an experience to remember. I’ve been wanting to attend it ever since I first heard of it many years ago. This year, due to changes to my original travel plans, and the encouragement of my partner, I was finally able to make it happen.

The contest itself is obviously the main event, and it was a lot of fun to watch. There’s only so much you can get from the still images from past years posted on the website. The venue was packed to the rafters and it was standing room only on both nights, and some people decided to just watch it on the TV in the foyer/bar area outside. I was a bit late to catch the introductions on the first night, but the shower scene ‘Wet Rubber’ round was lots of fun, with the contestants’ sexy fantasies being read by the MC while they did their best to act it out while under a running shower on the stage.

Me at Jackhammer on Saturday night

Part 2 of the contest on Saturday night had the contestants picking out gift bags, each containing a random set of innocous items usually found at home (including one food item). They have to then be creative in using it on the volunteer ‘demo pup’, who was none other than @pupstriker. It was hilarious seeing what they got up to, and as there’s no clean up between contestants, the stage was getting progressively messier and guys slipping and sliding all over the place, and making use of tools and toys left behind by previous contestants.

It really seemed like all 12 contestants were having a blast, and it was a fairly relaxed atmosphere. RubberJason took home the title of Mr. International Rubber this year, and he deserved it with his great personality and the effort he’d put in to his outfits and on-stage presence. I loved some of the others too and my vote went to the super cute and super sexy RubberInuki.

Apart from the MIR contest on Friday and Saturday nights, there were a few other things going on during the day. The kink market was like the ‘hub’ where people met up to hang out, socialise, do a bit of shopping at the market stalls, and watched demonstrations in the demo pit in the middle of the hall.

I also attended a couple of the workshops. It was interesting hearing the founder of International Mr. Leather, Chuck Renslow, speak about how S&M and fetish has evolved over the decades that he’s been involved in it (yet some things never change!), and the challenges the community faced (and still faces) to varying degrees with the law, public perception etc. He did lament that the Internet (and sites like Recon and Gaydar) is destroying the community and that many of Chicago’s leather bars, as well as leather bars in other cities around the world have closed down because of it. I disagree on that point, as the Internet was how I came to learn about my fetish for rubber, and meeting lots of other people who are into it as well, from all over the world, all at a time when I was young, naïve and terrified of what might happen at my local leather bar if I should step foot in there on my own.

The other workshop was on fetishism in comics by Tom Kelly, a comic book illustrator. This was a fascinating discussion on the origins of the superhero comics in the 30s and the idealised human form (both male and female) as well as the uniforms and the dual lives/identities most of them play. Some of these comics seem to have rather sexual undertones and reference to bondage and domination despite being made in very conservative times, and subject to the scrutiny of the Comics Code Authority. One has to wonder if there were some repressed, kinky writers back then!

Lube wresting in the demo pit

Sunday afternoon was pretty laid back, with many nursing hangovers and lack of sleep from the previous night of partying. Sunday night was Slushies and Showtunes at Sidetracks which was fun, but very, very crowded. After that, as per MIR tradition, we moved on to a club called Berlin for ‘Madonnarama’, all Madonna, all night for a bit of a dance. By that point quite of few people had already called it a night but I stuck around and besides, Berlin was just across the road from the hotel I was staying at so it wasn’t too far to go.

Throughout the weekend, and the week after that I stayed on in Chicago, I’d met up with some friends I knew, and met lots of other new people, all of whom share my fetish interest in rubber. While I’ve been to events like Beyond (a fetish dance party in Melbourne) and Folsom Europe (in Berlin), this is the first time I’ve been to a rubber-only contest/event. It was liberating just being able to walk around in gear pretty much all day and night that whole weekend. It was also kinda interesting that overall, the whole weekend felt sexy but not overly sleazy, as was my past experience at Folsom Europe. The difference between the US and European fetish scenes perhaps? There was certainly much more of a ‘community’ feel about this, and something which I’ve long felt is missing in Australia, particularly amongst the rubberists.

I’m so glad I made the trip to Chicago for MIR and it’s inspired me to try and improve things when I get back, and whatever small ways I can. Quite a few people I spoke to also suggested I come back for IML, which is a much bigger event, but also has a significant rubber presence these days. Definitely something to think about.

MIR 2012: Arrival

After an epic 24 hour trek around the world, I’ve just arrived in Chicago tonight. Feeling tired, dirty and hungry, I made my way straight to the hotel to check in, since it was nearly 11:30pm, I asked reception if there’s anything open for food and was directed to a diner across the road where I got myself a big, greasy burger with more chips than I could finish.

Went back to the hotel room, had a nice hot shower and poured myself a glass of wine, and fired up Recon and Twitter to see if anybody’s around (was surprised not to see rubber men all around the hotel and on the streets). Granted, I only just crossed the road and back, so no surprise there, and MIR hasn’t even officially started yet.

From the lack of engagement and responses, I guess some who are already in Chicago are probably out having a drink somewhere (or at private play parties in their hotel rooms ;) ), and others may still be en route. I need the sleep anyway so I’m calling it an ‘early’ night (even though it’s already 1:30am local time, by body clock is well and truly fucked up by the jet lag, I’m sure).

Can’t wait to see what the rest of the weekend holds.

The Ugly Truth About the Bareback Brotherhood

I came across the #BBBH hashtag on the posts and bios of some guys who follow me on Twitter, and I didn’t think much of it at first. One day, curiosity got the better of me and I decided to investigate. What I found turned out to be shocking and disgusting.

The Bareback Brotherhood is an online movement that claims to be a social group of men worldwide who believe that raw, unprotected sex is a natural and legitimate choice, and their members should “Fuck more. Fear less. Regret nothing”.

Obviously, the notion of barebacking is not new to me, and while I do not engage in it myself, I have never judged people who wish to do it, and it is up to the discretion of two consenting adults who would engage in it. The problem I have with the Bareback Brotherhood is that it is promoting irresponsible behaviour though channels that would appeal to young, insecure and impressionable gay men.

The Brotherhood says that bareback sex has been demonised and marginalised, but this is for a good reason. While many sexually transmitted diseases are treatable these days, there is still no cure of HIV/AIDS. I grew up in the 80s and 90s being bombarded with health warnings and messages about the dangers of catching HIV and how it is basically a death sentence. Those warnings certainly helped, and with better public awareness, the increased use of condoms and safer sex practices, HIV infection rates dropped to its lowest around the late 90s and early 2000s. Alarmingly, this has started going up again in the last decade, particularly among younger people who’ve received far less of the safe-sex message. The BBBH isn’t helping by encouranging casual unprotected sex, with its strong drive using social media. They to have a big presence on Twitter and Facebook as well as their own website. This gives an ominous new meaning to ‘going viral’.

On their website (which I refuse to link to), they’ve got a list dispelling ‘myths’ about barebacking, and thus justifying their existence, all of which are just hogwash. Lame excuses like claiming it’s a ‘lifestyle choice’ and comparing it to drinking, smoking and eating junk food, all of which pose certain risks to our health. While it may be true that smoking kills more people than AIDS, you’re also more likely to die from smoking than skydiving, but you wouldn’t go skydiving without a parachute, would you? You can also choose to stop smoking but you can’t just stop having HIV whenever you like. So much for ‘choice’.

One of the scariest things about this movement is the endorsement of stealthing. From their own “Top 10 Tips for Stealthing” page:

“The act of stealthing or a stealth fuck is somehow assuring that it appears as “safer sex” to one party involved in the fuck but, in fact, the other party has conspired to assure sperm will be deposited in the ass of the bottom.”

This is outright deception and breach of trust of the partner. They even go as far as describing ways to ‘stealth’ successfully, including deliberately weakening and damaging condoms, using specific formulations of lube that look and feel like cum in a spare condom as proof that they ejaculated in it, and ways to distract the other guy from their insidious actions. If HIV is actually transmitted intentionally by the stealther, this is actually a criminal act in many countries.

The Bareback Brotherhood claims to be “a group without judgment and with mutual respect for all, no matter sero-status”. Yet they insult us by calling us ‘Condom Nazis’, and that ‘plastic is terrific for storing food or protection on the pitch’ (even though most condoms are made from latex). They have no respect for our choice to use condoms, and how can I have any respect for anybody who is going to deceive and force someone else into their misguided, deceptive, and self-deceptive beliefs against their will (dare I say, like the Christian right, who also happen to condemn the use of condoms), and most likely while in a compromising position.

I wonder how many of the BBBH members are HIV positive ‘giftgivers’ (I really hate that term) looking for HIV negative ‘bugchasers’ who are purposely seeking out to be infected with HIV, so that they can continue having unprotected sex. Some of these guys would even consider seroconversion to be a ‘relief’ as they no longer have to constantly worry and be diligent about their actions as they are now part of a ‘club’ where they no longer need to consider safe sex. This is a myth, there are still plenty of other STIs that need to be avoided, and if someone is already HIV positive, this can seriously complicate treatment. This is a very twisted view and a form of self-harm, besides being irresponsible to themselves and the guys they have sex with.

Drug research has advanced to a point where HIV is not as life threatening as it used to be. While there are many people successfully ‘living with HIV’, it is not a walk in the park. Being HIV positive involves frequent health checks and tests, and the currently available treatments often have uncomfortable side effects, which require yet more drugs to counteract. The cocktail of anti-retroviral drugs aren’t perfect – they have to be tuned to the individual, and they don’t work indefinitely. They need to be ‘re-tuned’ when viral load or symptoms return, and they are now known to promote the development of new, drug-resistant strains of HIV.

While not all Bareback Brotherhood members are stealthers, nor are they all HIV positive, it gives the impression that such a disgraceful act as stealthing is okay, and is even condoned by this cult-like group. All this just for the thrill of the chase and the selfish satisfaction of cumming in someone’s arse against their will or knowledge. Is this some kind of alpha male dominance thing? Insecure men wanting to mark their territory by ignoring all protocol just to have it their way? The website has a whole section of blog posts contributed by members and editorialised ‘if needed’ on stealthing, and one recent piece entitled ‘San Diego Top Stealths His First Bottom’ in particular made me sick in the stomach.

Being paranoid of being infected with HIV or other STIs, I always insist on using condoms, and I do not ever want to be a victim of stealthing. Yes, ‘victim’, as it is non-consensual, akin to rape. Knowing that there are people who might actually attempt this makes me feel even less inclined to engage in casual encounters, cementing my views on how I would prefer to get to know someone well before even taking my pants off. Instead of being ‘limited’ by the use of condoms, I find it liberating because I am able to have control and protection of my health. Besides, I do not have a problem with being covered up in rubber.

BBBH founder Mark Bentson’s opinion on HIV status disclosure is extremely misguided and it is never okay to lie or not disclose your HIV status if asked. For someone who claims to be intelligent, he has some very sick and twisted ideas. Barebacking in and of itself is not a bad thing, but it remains the right of the participants to make a well informed decision. Lying or telling the other person what they want to hear is not an acceptable way to get what you want. There certainly is a sero-bias amongst gay men, but this is deliberate misdirection of the point and there are other ways to tackle the issue of acceptance and decriminalisation of being diagnosed as HIV positive. Throwing away all care and responsibility only gives more opportunities for the virus to spread and mutate, delaying the search for a cure.

Mark, his cohorts, and his 2000+ and rising followers are spreading misinformation and a dangerous message to gay men everywhere, that barebacking is somehow safe again, and we should embrace our natural instincts, but in doing so, they are just be undoing everything we’ve achieved in the last three decades to get us to this point where the pandemic is at a manageable level and the hope that we may one day eradicate it.

As Chris quite rightly pointed out – “This entire discussion would be somewhat moot in a world where HIV doesn’t exist. But it does.”

The actions of the Bareback Brotherhood are arrogant and selfish, very much like a petulant teenager engaging in high risk, attention seeking behaviour, and in spite of all rational thought or concern for their own long term health, or that of others. In fact, it pretty much ticks most of the diagnostic boxes of psychopathy. Mark Bentson is creating controversy for the sake of drawing attention to himself, feeding his egotistical self-esteem, spreading lies and putting lives at risk.

If you belong to the Bareback Brotherhood, I hope that you have a long, hard look at yourself and realise that this mindlessly selfish and sinister group is not advocating a simple right of choice, but a practice that is ignorant, irresponsible, and has serious repercussions. If someone you know (in real-life or Facebook friends, Twitter followers) has #BBBH in their profile/bio or frequently uses that hashtag in their posts, challenge their reasons and their understanding of what they think it really stands for, or just remove/block them outright as they don’t deserve the visibility they seek.

Finally, I would like to bestow the Darwin Award to Mark Bentson and hope that he will ‘breed’ himself out of existence, and all his #BBBH followers along with him.

Escapism

After a disappointing work-related meeting today, I’ve dipped again. Now I have additional things to worry about, job-wise.

On the advice of my best online rubber buddy, (yes, you!), I put on my rubber shirt. My fetish life is my escape from the real world. A chance to clear my mind and be one with myself. My second skin is the one I can truly be comfortable in.

As I sat here, in front of the computer, feeling the rubber tightening around my body, my hands start feeling my body through it. I feel comfortable and reassured. My mind drifts. I close my eyes and think of S and what happened on Sunday, replaying the same thoughts that I’ve been having every night just before I fall asleep, and the first thing when I wake up in the morning. I feel calm and relaxed, a little tingly with chills running up my spine, but also a strong longing for his touch and cuddles which I already miss so much.

Is this what love feels like? Am I in love? I can’t say for sure. But at this time I can only remember the good time I had and cherish it, until the next time I get to see him again.

Rollercoasters

This last couple of weeks have proven to be a mental and emotional rollercoaster ride for me. So many things have been going through my head. It all started with that fateful trip to Club80. That really was the one that opened up Pandora’s Box. It’s the first time I’ve gone out and meet strangers for casual, semi-anonymous sex, and all the risks that come along with that. In the days that followed, I’ve been having waves of worry and panic over my actions and the off-chance that I may have caught a STD or even HIV.

I’m pretty sure I took all the necessary precautions and never engaged in unsafe behavior, but when I came down with flu-y symptoms mid last week, my mind couldn’t shake the thought. Thing is, Melbourne weather turned wet and cold around the same time, and there appears to be a bug going around and half the people I know here have been down with the the flu in the past 2 weeks.

Besides that, I’ve been having vast mood swings. Starting from the weekend I went to Club80, I received my first rubber t-shirt on the following monday and the days that followed, I was on an euphoric high. I felt brave and confident of my own identity and that I had ‘arrived’ as a man. Then suddenly on Wednesday night I had an encounter with a rubberman who was in town visiting. While it was an exciting first play in rubber, but ultimately I left disappointed because in the end it was just sex, without tenderness and companionship. This man had a boyfriend where he came from, and that probably hit me hard that after this, he’d still have someone to go home to and that left me feeling empty inside.

I was in a mild depression for the next few days, questioning my actions and feelings. Why was I feeling so good about myself and it was ‘bad’ behaviour. The angel and the devil on my shoulders were at war, because for the first time in my life, I let the devil out and did ‘naughty’ things, totally out of my character. And the angel wasn’t too happy about that, my enjoyment of those guilty pleasures. It was around then I was coming down with the flu and that gave more cannon fodder for the argument against my promiscuity.

At this point I started forming my own thoughts on what I wanted out of an encounter. The things I liked and the things I didn’t. Setting up my ground rules, and boundries, now that I have had SOME experience and tried a few things with people. For one I’ve decided I don’t want a quick fuck with an anonymous person. I’d rather know him as a friend first, which makes it all the more meaningful, even if it doesn’t lead to anything beyond that.

And it was on Sunday when I got the invitation to meet up, and right off the bat I already stated what I was looking for, and so happened he was agreeable to my terms, and also wasn’t looking for a quick fuck in the dark. That opened me up a bit and who would have thought how it had ended up the way it did.

I guess what happened that day was that I finally realized I had a void in my life i never knew I did. I was lonely and desparate for companionship. I’ve always led an independent life, brushing off suggestions to find a partner and settle down because I want to lead my life the way I want to, and being able to move around as and when I please. Although I’ve had girlfriends before, I’ve never felt this level of intimacy with them. I was so comfortable and at ease with S that night, despite only having known him for a few hours. Everything just felt right. It wasn’t just about the rubber and the sex anymore. I felt connected with him on a deeper level. It’s probably too early to speculate and having any expectations so I will not even attempt to do so, but I’m very happy for what happened to me that fateful night and this week I’m in euphoria again.

A Perfect Day

Sunday started off as a pretty normal, uneventful day. Just relaxing and lazing around the house, going online and chatting with a few buds.

Mid-afternoon, I got a PM (private message) from someone (whom I’ll refer henceforth as “S”) who’s in Melbourne too. We got onto MSN and chatted a bit, and to our mutual surprise we were in the same suburb! We then thought it was a bit silly to chat online so we decided to meet at a cafe nearby for coffee.

I was nervous as usual, but went without expectations, just to see and get to know him. He was at the cafe before me, and was very friendly and we got along pretty well. We chatted about the usual stuff, work and life, then onto our fetishes and rubber. Since we seemed to ‘click’, he asked if i wanted to ‘play’ for a bit, in rubber of course. He said he had some gear which he’d let me try on. I was intrigued but a bit hesitant at first, after all being our first ‘date’ so to speak. But since we were doing things spontaneously today, I agreed. We walked down to our neighbourhood, and he showed me the street he lived at, and I went back home to get my rubber t-shirt.

Half an hour later I was at his place and there was a brief moment of awkwardness, due to nervousness on both of us but was quickly dispelled with some reassuring hugs and kisses. Well, we ended up in his bedroom, with his rubber gear lined up on the bed. While waiting for me he had already put his surf-suit on, and made me put on his rubber jeans, and hooded sports jacket. Everything fit nicely and it felt really good, on top of the t-shirt I already had on. We romped around on the bed for quite a bit… enjoying the feel, smell and sounds of all that rubber on us, and touching our own bodies. It was very horny. I was enjoying the rubber so much, we didn’t even get down to our cocks until much later, and we sucked each other off, with a bit of 69 at some point, and finished each other off by hand.

After we cummed, we snuggled up each other, feeling really good. I felt really comfortable with S and there was definitely a good connection there. We cleaned up and had some food from the kitchen, and watched a dvd in front of the open fireplace in his cosy house. Snuggled up against each other on the couch, it was so romantic. I was in bliss after I came back home, reluctantly. I fell asleep thinking of what happened during the day and the unexpected turn it had taken, for the better.

My Rubber T-shirt

My order from Reactor arrived today! I got the email from them last friday saying they had mailed it out that very afternoon. I was hoping, but not really expecting it to arrive today, but I still checked my mailbox every couple of hours and imagine my surprise when there was a package for me after lunch.

I ripped the package open and took it all in slowly… the feel, the smell, the look of the shiny material. Eventually taking my normal clothes off and putting the rubber one on. Thus began my transformation into a rubberman.

Being a short-sleeve t-shirt with a zippered front, there was no trouble at all putting it on, even without any talc or lube. While zipping it up.. the rubber just gripped my torso tight and it felt awesome. The sleeves are very short, which i’m not really used to when wearing normal t-shirts, but it definitely outlines the body nicely. Every movement, every stretch, every breath, the rubber moves and stretches with the body. Looking myself in the mirror, I see this guy who looks HOT, and it takes a while for my brain to process it and realize that it’s myself. I’ve never been proud of my body before this.

I’ve had the rubber t-shirt on ever since I got it out of the package, and still have it on as I’m typing this, 5.5 hours later. It feels so good and comfortable I don’t want to take it off. Just a couple of hours earlier I had put my sheath on and jerked off with a few fellow rubber buddies on webcam, sort of an initiation into my new rubber life. The feeling was intense, feeling the tight rubber on my body and my cock, with the heady latex smell drifing into my nostrils, and watching my friends (also in rubber) and myself on camera jerking off.

I feel like I am a different person now. The person I’ve been wanting to be for a VERY long time. I’ve finally ‘connected’ with my fetish fantasy life which has been out of reach until now. I feel accomplished, and I now carry an air of confidence of who I am and what I like. This is yet another step for me and I’m feeling positive and soaking in the experiences as they present themselves. This is only the beginning. BRING IT ON!

Cruising

Last night I took a big step in my self-exploration. I made my first trip to a gay cruising venue here in Melbourne called Club80.

Lets rewind back to two days prior, when I got a message from someone on WorldRubberMen inviting me to meet him at Club80 on Saturday night. First of all I’ve never even heard of the place before, and I hardly know this guy and he’s asking me to meet him there? Alarm bells were sounding in my head and I initially declined his offer, but after thinking about it for a day I decided to meet up with him after all, and I set some terms of my own. The rest of the day was in agony waiting for his response, and mentally preparing myself to go to his place which I’d never otherwise go. I’ve never even been to a gay bar or dance club, not to mention a gay cruising place.

He finally replied the message I left for him on the web site at about 6pm, and apologizing cos he would not be going there after all on that night. After all that rationalizing and calming of nerves I had done the whole day, I couldn’t just let it slip. Sure I was nervous as hell, but I was also curious and wanted to see what this place is like. Having visited the web site I was suitably impressed and intrigued by the facilites, and of course what goes on in the dimly lit halls. So i summed up my courage, after much persuasion from a few close online friends, got myself dressed (ripped jeans and a tight, white t-shirt) and off I went.

The place wasn’t hard to find, and I paid the $15 and was let through the heavy wooden door. It was around 9 when i got there and there weren’t many people around then, so i walked around
checking the place out. Of the people that were there, some were using the computers, others watching the movies in the movie lounge. The main lounge areas are on the 1st floor and at the back there are stairs leading up to the cruising zone and loft, and down to the ‘dungeon’. So I went up and everything was like I saw in the photos on their site, and then some. Very industrial-looking, with pipes, metal bars, railings and stairs, with dim lighting all around. The main cruising area has lots of small cubicle rooms, some with beds, some without. Further upstairs was the ‘loft’ which has about 5 or 6 rooms and they all have leather slings in them. There are iron prison bars which can be looked through into the rooms from the corridor but a shutter can be pulled down from inside if you want privacy.

At the time I was walking around, the ground floor ‘dungeon’ was still closed but there were posters announcing that there was a special thing going on… “Megafist” which from what I gathered was a regular meet by members of a Yahoo Group of the same name, into fisting, obviously. The doors were only to be opened at 10pm. Next door to the dungeon is another cruising area that totally pitch black and is like a maze of oil drums stacked up to form walls. You can peep through the gaps into the dungeon area, where I saw there were 2 or 3 slings and a few more private rooms.

It was in the pitch black darkness when i was looking through, that someone came and felt me up from behind, groping hands around my ass and up my chest. I sorta panicked for a bit, not knowing what to do next. To let him continue to what? I turned around and we kissed a bit. Then he asked me if i wanted to go to a room upstairs for some fun. Ok, so i agreed.

There was kissing, hugging and sucking… and he asked if I wanted to be fucked. I wasn’t so sure about that so I kinda dissuaded him, but then he asked if I wanted to fuck him instead. So I decided to give it a go, and rubbered and lubed up my cock, but getting my dick into his anus was a lot harder than I imagined! In my frustration and nervousness I kinda lost my hard-on, which was embarassing, which made it even worse and i couldn’t get it back. eeeeeps. It was most probably because I wasn’t particularly attracted to him after seeing him in slightly better light. I apologized for my poor ‘performance’ and we went for some juice at the bar. We sat down and chatted a bit, but there were no sparks and I was losing interest. He gave me his number with the hopes of me calling him back but I would seriously doubt it.

I was still a bit tense and shaken, so I chilled out at the lounge reading the papers, and using the computers for a bit of surfing. Around half-past-midnight I went cruising again, both upstairs and downstairs around the dungeon area. There were more people around now and the people in the upstairs cruise zone standing about. Talk about being in a ‘meat market’! I saw a lot of hot men in leather chaps and jeans, and a lot of shaven and short-cropped heads (which I have a soft spot for). I guess it all goes with the look.

I wasn’t sure of what’s supposed to happen and protocols etc., so i just walked right through the hallways checking people out (as well as I could in the dim light). I went round a few times. I saw a cool guy in an army uniform and passed him by a few times. he’d seen me and smiled at me before, so i eventually built up the guts to stop and chat him up, complimenting his outfit. So we chatted a bit then went back down to the bar and got some drinks and chatted some more, about our backgrounds and sex and fetishes.

It seems he’s more into role playing and bondage of the army trainer kind of scenes, and he asked me if we wanted to go and ‘play’ a bit. I agreed to it, and he was very accomodating. He let me decide how we play and how far it goes. So we role played a bit and I was his recruit. There was kissing, tit play, submission of control (eg. “Your cock is mine now, boy. I own it and you do not touch it without my permission, boy. Do you understand, boy?”), that kind of stuff, which was a first for me. He’d order me to do stuff like play with his cock and balls, tits etc., and he’d play with my cock and balls while I’m ‘at ease’. Then he had me face the wall with my hands held up high and jerked me off while standing behind me, with his cock between my legs and made me stroke it. He made me cum that way, holding me tight from behind, kissing my neck, with me pinned against the wall, and blowing my load on it. After that I was still under his control and he made me play with his tits while he jerked himself off to orgasm. After that we just stayed in the room and laid on the bed. I sat between his legs, my back on his chest and we just relaxed and enjoyed the cuddling and chatted about stuff.

We got along really well and before we knew it, it was 2am and he had to make a move as he had things to do the next day. He offered to send me back home which was a relief as there was no more public transport at that time and I’d otherwise have to take a cab.

On the whole it was a good, positive experience for me. I still feel a bit ‘dirty’ for going to place like this which in my conscience would be a dodgy and seedy place to be… but then again it was an eye opening experience to see what goes on behind these closed doors. My partner for the night was telling me, usually when ‘cruising’ people just go straight to the sex without much talk, but I, on the other hand, prefer to know the person a bit before doing anything. I guess that part of me is keeping me ‘safe’ from this otherwise risky behaviour.

The other thing, is that I think I feel more comfortable around guys more than girls. I think it’s to do with knowing what the other person wants. Women are like a totally different species to me. Is this the confirmation I needed to know that I’m for a fact, gay? Tough call, that. In any case, I’ve definitely taken one step forward in life yesterday by overcoming the fear and tension of going to Club80. I’ve already crossed the threshold and I wouldn’t hesitate to go back there and other bars and venues too.

My first order

A few days ago I gave in, and placed an order for a zippered rubber short-sleeve t-shirt from Reactor Rubberwear in Sydney. The deal-sweetener was the free shipping till the end of the month, but seeing as they are (relatively) local, it wouldn’t have been much anyway, I think.

Unfortunately, they didn’t have my size with a black zipper that I specified, only with silver zippers. They gave me an option to change my order and they can send it immediately, or wait for them to make me a new one, which will take 10 days. I opted to wait and so they said they’ll email me back when it’s ready and has been shipped out.

Woo hoo! I’m excited that I’ve finally bit the bullet and bought myself some decent rubberwear. I can’t wait for it to arrive in just over a week’s time.